Why Success Feels Hard (and How to Make It Effortless)
Mario Lanzarotti •
Does it ever feel like no matter how hard you work, success is just out of reach? I used to feel that way too. I thought success was about proving myself — achieving more, earning more, and being admired by others. But here’s what I learned: When you make success all about yourself, you make it much harder than it needs to be. Why? Because when it’s all about you, every action comes from a place of fear and scarcity: Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of not being good enough. You focus on how you look , what others think of you , and what you can get . It becomes exhausting. The truth is, success isn’t about you — it’s about the people you serve. When you shift your focus to helping others, success stops feeling like a grind and starts to feel natural. Be a High-Value Person True success is about becoming a high-value person — someone who shows up each day looking for ways to make other people’s lives better. When you focus on serving others instead of proving yourself , everything changes: You stop chasing validation and start creating impact. You attract opportunities because people trust and value you. You feel fulfilled because helping others aligns with your true nature. To become this kind of person, you need to develop two key skills: 1. Creating Real Connections People open up to those they trust. But trust isn’t built by talking about yourself or trying to impress others. It’s built through authentic connection . This means: Being present in your conversations. Showing genuine care about what the other person is going through. Letting go of any hidden agenda. When people feel safe sharing their challenges with you , you become someone they look up to — someone they want to work with, refer, or follow. Ask Yourself: Who can I reach out to this week to genuinely connect with, expecting nothing in return? 2. Listening to Understand, Not Respond Most people listen just to reply. They’re waiting for their turn to talk or thinking about what to say next. Active listening is different. It’s about fully focusing on the other person’s words, emotions, and needs. It’s listening to understand , not to jump in with advice or solutions. When you listen this way, you’ll: Build stronger relationships. Understand what others truly need, so you can serve them better. Stand out as someone people want to be around. Try This: In your next conversation, practice listening without interrupting or offering advice. Ask clarifying questions and focus entirely on understanding the other person’s perspective. Start today If you’re tired of feeling stuck, here’s where to begin: Find One Opportunity to Serve Each Day. Ask yourself, “Who can I help today, and how?” Practice Deep Listening. In your next conversation, focus entirely on understanding the other person without rushing to respond. Reach Out to Connect. Send a message to someone you admire or care about. No agenda — just a genuine connection. The secret to success isn’t about proving yourself. It’s about helping others. So, who will you serve today? To your growth, Mario P.S.: If you want my help in scaling your business rapidly without burning out in the process, click this link.
See More Posts
Cardy
Copyright © 2021 Govest, Inc. All rights reserved.